DISC
Breaking the Communication Code
Your player isn't ignoring you. They're hearing you in a different language.
Recruiting doesn't create the gap between a parent and a player. It exposes the one that's already there. The Code Breaker shows you both sides of it, in plain language, in about ten minutes.
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The call where the parent does all the talking
A college coach reaches out. Your player answers. About thirty seconds in, the coach can hear a second voice in the room.
I've been the coach on that call for more than thirty years. I want to tell you what I'm actually thinking when it happens, because it isn't what most parents assume.
I'm not thinking you're a problem parent. I'm thinking I still don't know your kid.
You've driven the miles. You've paid the club fees. You've watched your player get passed over at a showcase where another kid got the conversation. Of course you jumped in.
You weren't out of line. You were in your style. And nobody ever showed you what your style costs your player when it's the only one you use.
Four ways families talk
Everybody has all four moves. Everybody starts from one. Here's what each looks like when recruiting starts.
D
The Driver
You move. A coach emails Tuesday and by Wednesday you've built the list, drafted the reply, and found three more schools that fit.
Blind spot
Your player learns to stand behind you. Coaches recruit the player they can hear.
I
The Inspirer
You bring the energy. You talk the program up on the drive home and tell the coach how much your daughter loved the campus.
Blind spot
Your player can't always tell your excitement from a decision that's already been made for them.
S
The Supporter
You protect. Your player goes quiet after a hard game and you don't push. You wait. That patience is a real gift.
Blind spot
Some families wait two years without a single email going out to a coach.
C
The Calibrator
You research. You know the roster by position, the coach's last four stops, and the real cost after aid. Nobody's better prepared.
Blind spot
Your player can start to feel like a project being managed instead of a kid being backed.
None of the four is the right one to be. I've coached players out of all four homes who found their next level, and I've watched all four kinds of family stall out.
Your lead style is the move you start from. Your blind spot is the move you skip.
The style isn't the problem. The skipped move is. And because your lead style has worked for you your whole life, you don't notice the one you never make. That's what the report is for.
What a good recruiting week actually looks like
The same four moves, run in order. This is the sequence behind every recruiting conversation that goes somewhere.
C
Prepare
Know the program before you reach out, so the email says something true about that specific school.
I
Engage
Reach out like a human, not a resume. Coaches answer people, not attachments.
S
Trust
Built over months of small honest contact. Never built by one highlight video.
D
Impact
The ask, the visit, the offer, the decision. This is the step everyone wants to start on.
Preparing to Engage builds Trust that leads to Impact.
Look at the order and you'll see the four styles sitting in it. Calibrators prepare. Inspirers engage. Supporters build trust. Drivers create impact.
So when a family only knows one move, they don't run the sequence. They run their favorite step four times and wonder why nothing happens. The Driver family sends the ask before the trust exists and gets silence. The Calibrator family researches for eleven months and never engages anyone. The Supporter family builds a warm relationship with an assistant coach and never once asks where their player sits on the board.
Not one of those families is lazy. Every one of them is working hard at the step they're comfortable with.
What releases in mid-August
Three reports. Pick the one you want free, and we'll show you the others when they're live.
01
The Athlete Code
Your player's own report. The move they start from, the move they skip, and how to sound like themselves on a coach call instead of reading a script.
02
The Parent Code
Your report. What your style gives your player during recruiting, what it costs them, and the one move to add so your player stays the one talking.
03
The Together Report
Both codes side by side. Exactly where you and your player collide, why it keeps happening, and what to say instead on the ride home.
There's no timeline in any of this and no one is behind. Recruiting is a set of checkpoints, and you spend the time you need at each one. Some checkpoints your family will skip entirely, depending on your player's journey.
You can't put that on a highlight reel, and you can't do it for them from across the kitchen. But you can prepare them for it. That's the job, and that's what the report starts.
Who's behind this
Christian DeVries is the head men's soccer coach at Paradise Valley Community College and the founder of AOS Sports, home of the College Player Pathway. He's spent 30+ years recruiting and coaching at the NCAA, NAIA, and junior college levels, and has helped players reach every level of college soccer including Division I.
Breaking the Communication Code is what he built after watching too many good players and good parents lose each other during recruiting.
Questions parents ask
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Breaking the Communication Code
Built on the DISC framework, in use since 1928, and adapted by Christian DeVries as a certified DISC practitioner specifically for athletes, coaches, and the families around them. This is not a personality test and there is no good or bad result.
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